Scripture Verse: Now therefore, the sword will never depart from your house, because you despised Me and took the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your own. 2 Samuel 12:10
Notes to the Leader: This study has a lot of history and is not oriented for active discussion unless your group is very knowledgeable about Bible history. The leader must do a lot of the talking. There is an excellent opportunity to have your group do Scripture reading in that there are many verses to read and think about. Use this study to get people comfortable with reading to each other and to looking up verses in the Old Testament.
Share with your group: The two most remembered historical events of King David's life are probably when he killed Goliath and when he fell victim to his want of Bathsheba. This can be remembered as David's great moment of victory and his great moment of defeat. With Goliath, David's complete faith in God and His strength established that in faith, we can overcome insurmountable obstacles. However, David's response to his temptations brought about by seeing Bathsheba reinforces the reality of sin. While forgiveness is brought forth with repentance, it does not necessarily remove the consequence of sin.
Section One: The Sin
Have someone in your group read 2 Samuel 11:1-5. He was a great warrior and normally was with his troops. Now note verse 1.
Why do you think that David was staying behind in Jerusalem?
Why do you think that times of peace and/or prosperity make people particularly vulnerable to sin?
Read Leviticus 20:10 to your group. Even though David was king, the penalty was clear. This was the gravity of the sin between David and Bathsheba. Now David is a king and very powerful.
His position no doubt placed fear in many a person's heart. Do you blame Bathsheba for what she did or was she simply a victim of David's position and power?
Have someone in your group read 2 Samuel 12:9.
The letter written by David made him the murderer of Uriah, Bathsheba's husband.
What drove David to become a murderer?
Section Two: Accountablility
This is an example of the importance of accountable relationships. Nathan was God's prophet and David's close friend. When David failed to repent, God used Nathan to stir David's conscience.
Do you have someone in your life that loves you enough to do the same?
Note: Do remember that accountable
relationships take time to build. If you have one or two in a life time,
you should consider yourself blessed.
Why do you think that parables are so effective for teaching?
Have someone in your group read 2 Samuel 12:7.
Note: This is where the parable is turned
into a lesson for the heart of David.
While David's response is one of repentance, what are two key elements that make his repentance acceptable to God?
We are reminded by Nathan's comments that even though the penalty of David's sin is death, it is God and only God who has the right to forgive David and remove the penalty of Death.
Do you see a New Testament metaphor in this act?
Note: It is worthwhile to pause here and be reminded that not every action of God's is in response to sin. While there are those who have lost children like Bathsheba, this study should not lead you to the conclusion that the death of a child or any other tragic event is because of someone's sin. Each personal story is God's to write, for His purpose, and in pursuit of His perfect will. Before we begin with this part of the lesson, review the following scripture:
Have someone in your group read John
9:1-3 - Disabilities or death cannot automatically be assigned to sin.
What was God trying to do with David?
Section Three: Amnon's Sin
What can such a torrid part of history mean for the Christian today? Read the following verses and establish the characters for our modern day TV soap opera.
Note: Now imagine a young child today who is faced with the desire for something that is forbidden. It could be sex or drugs or anything sinful, the vary pressures on our children today. Peer pressure works its charm and soon we have a rape. How quickly the consequence of sin takes hold (see 2 Samuel 13:15). The lesson in all of this comes from studying David's response to his children's sin.
Section Four: Absalom's Revenge
David lacked the will to discipline his children because of his own sins. Do you think an adult has the right to tell a child not to do something that the adult has done?
A final review of David's struggle
David longed to go to Absalom (2 Samuel 13:39)
Joab was aware of David's longings for his son (2 Samuel 14:1) but not willing to bring him back.
Joab finally took control of the situation and sent a woman from Tekoa to David with a sad story about two sons. This was a parable similar to Nathan's in that Joab wanted to motivate David into action.
David compromised the Law and forgave Absalom. Absalom was not led to repentance or punished. The permissiveness of David within his family continued and caused continual problems within his household. In essence, David's permissiveness only led to the fulfillment of Nathan's prophecy (2 Samuel 12:10-11).
|Bible Truth Being Taught: God is the only authority over discipline. It is our faith in His perfect will that the consequences of one's actions are for His purpose of salvation.|
|Our Response: To understand that God's discipline may be painful but that it is a result of God's love for us. Permissiveness is not an act of love. It only leads to pain and destruction. We should be thankful that our God is not permissive.|